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While it is painful to even think about, you’ve started to have this nagging suspicion in the back of your mind that your husband may be cheating on you with an escort in Wigan . Whether he heads out late at night to run ambiguous errands, comes back home and immediately heads to the shower, or returns home appearing to have already showered at a different location — these are the signs that led you to believe your husband may be engaging in extramarital infidelity with a Wigan escort.

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What is important to know with this type of activity, in general, is that seeing an escort agency in Wigan is not usually one of the first steps of extramarital infidelity. If your husband has been, in fact, seeing an escort — there is a good chance that he has a history of unfaithfulness to one degree or another. As an example, before man would visit a local Wigan escort, it is likely that he has a history, generally a long history, with pornography in general. In addition to viewing pornography, there is also the chance that these men have used various websites, such as married but looking websites, adult chat rooms, escort websites, and so forth, before they have actually met up with an escort agency in Wigan .

However, because men who visit Wigan escort agencies oftentimes have a long history of deviance from their marital vows, online infidelity investigation services can help to uncover both the types of websites that your husband has visited as well as potentially catching them trying to solicit an escort.

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You're no stranger to block parties and birthdays, but now you're looking to throw a party with a little more of an adult theme? For wild couples, swing parties can be fun for an anniversary or special birthday, or they can be great events for you to organize regularly. So what do you have to consider? As in all sex stories, what's important are the fundamentals:

Where to Have your Party

  • Your own home is your best bet for your party as a new host. You might be tempted to hold a party outside in warm weather- lots of space, beautiful scenery and easy cleanup. But this isn't wise unless you live VERY far away from your neighbors.
  • You may think a high fence or tall trees provide privacy, but even if your neighbors can't see you, they can still hear you! This can result in a complaint and an unfortunate police visit.
  • Attempts to hide your party attendees' sounds with loud music won't work. Those bright colorful lights you'll see aren't festive decorations, but police cars out front.
  • All this considered, it's best to keep the action inside when you start out. If you're a real beginner, you'll also want to attend a few swing parties before trying to host your own.
  • Sometimes people consider hosting as an easy way to make some money, but like most plans for fast money, it's not as simple as it looks. It's important to plan your parties well, and you're not hosting a spectator sport. In order to get along with your guests and have a good party, you should be into swinging yourself.
The Guest List

  • In the beginning you should invite people you know from other swingers' parties and groups. You'll want to get more comfortable with hosting and more familiar with swinging before you let strangers show up.
  • Saturday night's alright for swinging- people tend to be too tired to get into it at the end of the week on Friday. It's a good idea to start promoting your party about a month in advance, and encourage people to bring people they actually know, but not friends of friends.
  • Make this rule very clear: couples only!! Single men often try to crash to take advantage of what they imagine is just one big orgy- that's not what this is about. Single men or women can cause jealousies and complications. Limiting your guest list to couples allows everyone to relax and enjoy themselves.
What to Serve your Guests

  • It's illegal to sell alcohol without a liquor license so you can't charge for alcohol or you could be arrested. Instead, charge a fee per couple to attend and give away the food and liquor. $30 per couple is a standard charge, or you can charge a smaller fee and make it BYOB.
  • One of the first things you should establish is how many couples you can accommodate, depending on space, your comfort, and the energy you want your party to have. You can overbook by 50% because a lot of people may not show up.
  • Require that people RSVP by e-mail. This way, you'll have the e-mails of all the people who are attending so you can send them the time, date and location of the party, along with rules and any fun details of a theme if you're having one (these are common at swing parties.)
Speaking of Rules...

  • You should say up front whether you'll allow smoking and any kind of cameras/documentation. These can make some guests uncomfortable, so they should know what they're getting into.
  • Make it clear that the party is supposed to be fun and safe for everyone, and you won't tolerate drunkenness or fighting.
  • Also, all activities will be completely consensual and no one will have to participate in anything they aren't comfortable with.

Use these simple guidelines and you'll have your guests coming again and again!

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Steve is a professional musician. A man in his 50's, virile yet sensitive, he is sexually compulsive around fetishistic sex. Since his early teens, Steve had masturbated nearly every night before going to sleep. As he matured, his need for masturbation increased until he was masturbated five or six times a day. He found that if he did not act on these urges, he would remain "horny" all day, which would make him restless, distracted, and irritable. When asked about his masturbatory fantasies, he related that they centered on feet, stockings, worshiping at the feet of a dominant woman to whom he would avow love, and visiting professional sex workers to whom he would also confess love.

By his mid-twenties, he was routinely acting out on these fantasies. Again, if he did not act out his sexual fantasies, he would become very uncomfortable and would be unable to focus on anything except playing music during the day. When the Internet became available, he started spending multiple hours each day surfing the net, looking for fetishistic images to which he would masturbate. Stating that he was never interested in "fucking real women", he was eager to view websites that featured feet, legs, stockings, heels and dominatrixes.

When he would begin a romantic/sexual relationship with a woman, he would vow to stop acting out with aberrant sex to devote his attention to the girlfriend. He could, however, never bring himself to tell the "real girlfriend" he loved her. Within a few months after he began a relationship, he would lose sexual interest in his partner and the relationship would fall apart.

At some point, he started using telephone sex services. He would enjoy having elaborate fantasy relationships with the workers and would often "fall in love" with one of them. When he had "maxed out" his credit cards, he applied for new ones and then ran them up their limits. He got behind in the rent, and the power company threatened to cut him off unless he paid his bill. Socially isolated, deeply in debt, and about to lose his job, Steve realized his preoccupation with sex was ruining his life, but he felt powerless to change his behavior. Moreover, he was fighting the urge to visit a dominatrix/transvestite which he felt was a significant increase in the level of deviance he required to achieve sexual satisfaction.

He also was beginning to sense that pornography and phone sex no longer excited him as much as they used to. Increased levels of novelty, excitement and risk were required to achieve orgasm. At the same time he had met a woman whom he greatly admired, but for whom he had no sexual feelings despite her very real physical attractiveness. When he lost interest in her sexually and episodes of emotional intimacy would provoke anxiety, he began to examine his relationship patterns. Fearful that he was perpetuating his life-long pattern of not being able to be sexual or to have loving feelings for a real woman, he was concerned that yet another relationship would painfully fall apart. This, combined with persistent job jeopardy and chronic debt, propelled him into treatment.

Personal History

Steve was the youngest child in the family, with a sister who was five years his senior.

His sister was a bit sadistic, tormenting him with teasing when he began to develop sexually. He relayed an incident wherein he had given an ID bracelet to a girlfriend and his sister confronted him about the missing bracelet at the dinner table which incited fear in him about his projection of his mother's enmeshed and hysterical reaction.

His mother, it seemed, was the stereotypical "Jewish mother." She was adamant that he not see girls who were not Jewish (and most of his girlfriends were not). When starting treatment, Steve relayed that he had a very "loving" relationship with his mother. She would tell him that she loved him "every 10 seconds" and would incur his guilt about abandoning her whenever he made an effort to explore his interest in girls. As treatment proceeded, he began to realize that a fear of engulfment was an underlying factor about his anxiety about true intimacy and was able to connect this to his relationship to a mother who was too insecure to allow him to become his own person. He spent his childhood feeling that he could not retain a sense of himself and still maintain his relationship to mother, whom he put on a pedestal. Unable to risk his mother's emotionally abandoning him, he clocked himself in an armor of a "false self", which was a people-pleasing self. Constantly seeking validation from the outside, sexual approvable and acceptance from sex workers made him feel real, vital and alive. It defined his identity.

His love and need for mother represented a conflict for him. At some point, he began to realize how emotionally arbitrary his mother was. He could never trust her telling him that she loved him "every 10 seconds" because she would act differently from one moment to the next, giving Steve mixed messages. What disturbed him most as a child were his mother's rage attacks, which were unpredictable and could be triggered by almost anything. Inevitably, whenever Steve would make an attempt to appropriately separate from family, his mother would rage about an unrelated event. He sometimes would feel "crazy" by his mother's enmeshment and abandonment patterns.

Steve's father worked in the hardware store that his father (Steve's grandfather) had started and had successfully run until he sold it to cover his gambling debts. Steve's father had intended to save his money and eventually either to buy out the hardware store's current owner or else to open his own store. After many years, however, he was still working for little more than minimum wage, while the store's owner would regularly rebuke him for not having his father's knack for hardware. Steve's father was not ready to be a father when Steve was born. Steve understood that his father was planning on leaving his mother but could not bring himself to leave her with two small children. Steve came to blame himself for being responsible for holding his father in a marriage he did not want to be in. Later he realized that his father would not have had the guts to leave. Steve noted that his father never stood up for himself or for his family, and that he never stood up to Steve's mother. While his mother held Steve up on a pedestal, she, at the same time, demoralized his father with her constant belittling about his failure as a man.

Steve's father died from a heart attack when he was 13. Steve felt nothing about the loss and when he went back to school he never told anyone about it.. About a year later, his mother was hit and killed by a bus after Steve asked her if she could walk the dog as a favor to him. He had wanted to stay home to look at internet porn and masturbate.

Extremes of parental depravation or indulgence have devastating effects on a child, and it is not surprising to find this dynamic in the backgrounds of many sexual compulsives.

In addition, he had a weak connection to a vulnerable father to whom he felt a guilt-inducing tie for "holding" him to a torturous marriage to a woman who loathed and belittled his manhood. There was no port in the storm for Steve; no sustaining environment where Steve could develop an arsenal of task -orienting coping strategies. Nor did he have any social connections that could have compensated for the lack of balance and consistency required for the development of a solid, adequate sense of self. Like many sexual compulsives, he sexualized his family-of-origin conflicts and developed an internal "split" to abide an unbearable childhood psychic reality.

As an adult, he felt he lived in two worlds - not unlike a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde syndrome. There was a vacillating connection between fetishistic love objects in his fantasy world where he could express none- threatening love feelings and "real" women who were his companions and intellectual equals, although he held no erotic feelings for them. He could remain alive and vital enough to succeed at a competitive career in the music industry by remaining in a dissociated "erotic haze" which served to regulate the amount of intimacy he could tolerate. The sexually compulsive person therefore frequently alternates between the isolated and anxious clinging to both the "fantasy" love object with whom he feels safe but dehumanized, demoralized and fraudulent, and the "real" woman with whom he feels emotionally vulnerable, terrified of engulfment and de-erotized.

In addition to a lack of self care and the repetitive, impulsive choices that result in damaging consequences to the self, the person enslaved by compulsive sexuality is ill- equipped to value, comfort, soothe, and care for his authentic self. Indeed, he has no authentic self because he has never separated from his family-of-origin. The lack of care and nurturing from a mother who only saw him as a "need-supplying object" for herself is his basic trauma and is acted out sexually as an adult.

With this case in mind, let us pick out specifically what makes for a description of a sexually compulsive person.

Compulsive Sexuality
Solidifies his identity
Feels shameful
Is illicit, stolen, or exploitive
Compromises values
Draws on fear for excitement
Reenacts childhood traumas
Disconnects one from oneself
Creates a world of unreality and fantasy
Is self-destructive and dangerous
Uses conquest or power
Serves to medicate and kill pain
Is dishonest
Requires a double life
Is grim and joyless
Demands perfection
Mistakes intensity for intimacy
Requires novelty - intensity always has to be more than the last "hit"
Gives way to self-hatred, loneliness and despair.
Has no sexual "boundaries"
Uses false intimacy as a way to avoid relational pain
Preoccupation and ritualizations
Is "doing to" someone
Is devoid of communication
Has no limits
Benefits one person
Is an uncontrollable energy
Is emotionally distant
Other considerations

-Behavior leads to increasingly negative consequences but addict unable to control acting out
-Denial of the behavior's seriousness.
-Is the product of intense, unmet needs, coupled with the demand for perfect fulfillment and control of relational pain.
-Demands that life provides an illusion of reassurance and predictability by getting self-centered physiological relief.
-Is always a narcissistic endeavor - people are seen as "need-supplying objects", not as real human beings; more interested in getting than giving.
-Is ephemeral - physical orgasm provides a welcome rush of adrenaline, but by itself can only offer the brief illusion of intimacy and belonging.
-Sex is a conquest and abates the terrifying sense of not belonging.
-Sexual fantasy conjures up a perfect world of nourishment, love, generosity and tenderness.
-Are trapped in the paradox of being terrified of loneliness even as they act in ways that create further loneliness.
-In fantasy sex, have the freedom to be vulnerable and nurtured without fear. At it's core, sexual fantasy is a worship of self.
-Carry a sense of parental betrayal; parents unable to provide a positive role model of healthy intimacy.
-Have no ability to regulate their emotions from within.
-Risk relationships, financial loss, job jeopardy and physical safety.
-Possesses a set of irrational cognitive distortions, including "Sex is my most important need"; "I am basically a bad, worthless person; no one could love me as I am;" "My needs are never going to be met if I depend on others;" "I am valuable only if I am sexualized; being sexually desired makes me feel alive;" (Patrick Carnes, Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction)
-Have deficits in the areas of social skills, interpersonal communication, stress control, anger management and empathy for others.
-Learned in childhood that feelings are dangerous, so learned how to mask their feelings, even from themselves.
-Sexual addiction is not a moral issue; it is a coping mechanism born from childhood wounding.

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Getting a job at a stripper isn't as difficult as one might think. A lot of would be exotic dancers mistakenly believe that applicants must be blonde, busty, and gorgeous. The truth is most adult entertainment venues desperately need a variety of looks, and will gladly invite you to audition.

How to Get Started
The very first item on your job search is to figure out the type of gentlemen's club your comfortable working at. There are several types of places; including: topless, nude, and bikini only strip clubs. If this will be your first experience working as a stripper, it's a good idea to find classy places, with no contact policies. Your best bet is to look on line and make a list of different clubs. Many women believe they need to call the strip club and describe their looks and personality. I would suggest not doing this at all. Managers at strip clubs tend to get very busy, and have heard it all before. Additionally, adult clubs receive a lot of job inquires everyday. The worst thing you can do is call the strip club and ask for the owner about getting a job. It's unprofessional, and highly annoying. Simply call and ask what time auditions are held, as well as what type clothing is required.

How to Prepare
From the moment you walk through the door to audition as a stripper, you are being watched. Chances are a manager somewhere in the club can see you on camera. Since you only get one first impression, make it your best. You might be absolutely smoking hot, but if you walk in with the wrong attitude your chances are diminished. Traditionally, there will be a hostess working at the front door. Kindly approach her with a smile and let her know your there to audition as a dancer. Don't give attitude or be rude in anyway. You never know if she is dating a manager or staff member and strip clubs are known to be highly catty. It's also a good idea to bring your drivers license or I.D., as most clubs have an age requirement. Take it from me, getting a job as a stripper is completely different from usual job hunting methods. They are not interested in your organizational or multi-tasking skills. Managers look at the following traits: looks, body and attitude.

Make sure to smile, and keep eye contact with the manager, or staff member who is auditioning you. Under no circumstance would I suggest stomping your feet or crawling around on stage. Strippers in the industry who dance this way are considered very un-classy and unprofessional. After you're finished with the audition, the house mom or manager will usually let you know if you've been hired as a stripper at their club. If they tell you they will contact you later, the club is probably not interested. Don't get discouraged. Take the opportunity to explore the reasons why you were not hired, and make improvements. Just because a single strip club did not hire you, doesn't mean another one won't.

In such a tough job market, many women are considering exotic dancing as a way to make extra money. Getting hired as a stripper isn't so hard if you do your homework.

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With all the excitement and preparations of attending a private swinger house party, it can be easy to forget about the simple things you can to do to set you apart from all the other guests. Here are some tips to help make your night at the party a great one, and stay on the guest list for future parties:

  • Be Responsive: When receiving a house party invitation, read it carefully and make sure to respond by the RSVP date. Since a house party can only accommodate a certain number of guests, be polite and let the hosts know in advance if you are unable to make it so they can invite another couple to replace you. If you find you cannot go after making a reservation, call back and cancel so the host can invite someone waiting for an opening.
  • Be Generous: Party hosts spend a lot of time making arrangements for parties. They have to choose who to invite, send the invitations, prepare the house, the entertainment, and the food and drinks. If there is no financial cost for you to attend the party, use good manners and bring a gift for the hosts. It could be a bottle of wine, or a keepsake for the hostess.
  • Be Cooperative: Everyone has a different opinion of proper operating procedures. If your hosts are into a different thing, go along with it despite any prior expectations you may have had. When you're the host you can do it your way!
  • Be Respectful: Just like you, not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Be attentive to the fact that your partner, as well as others, may not be relaxed or enjoying themselves. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same way about things, so if it is obvious that things are not working out remain polite and courteous, but alert the host.
  • Be Honest: Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. You are at the party to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want, and with whom you want.
  • Avoid Being Pushy: If you are interested in swinging with another couple, let them know in a friendly way. If they are likewise interested, they will respond in a positive manner. If they are not interested and respond with a "No thank you," do not ask WHY. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without an explanation. No amount of sweet-talking or coercion on your part will change their mind, and will probably work against you.
  • Keep It Fun: If it is a theme party, plan on dressing that way. If you do not like the theme, do not go. You will change the atmosphere and drag others down. Many theme parties call for costumes or special party wear. Swinging is fun, so go with it!
  • Be Appreciative: It is always good manners to thank your hosts for inviting you into their home. You should do it in person during the party and after the party with a thank you card or a phone call. Everyone likes to feel appreciated, so your hosts will remember you and most likely add you to the guest list of their next party.

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