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While it is painful to even think about, you’ve started to have this nagging suspicion in the back of your mind that your husband may be cheating on you with an escort in Westhoughton . Whether he heads out late at night to run ambiguous errands, comes back home and immediately heads to the shower, or returns home appearing to have already showered at a different location — these are the signs that led you to believe your husband may be engaging in extramarital infidelity with a Westhoughton escort.

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What is important to know with this type of activity, in general, is that seeing an escort agency in Westhoughton is not usually one of the first steps of extramarital infidelity. If your husband has been, in fact, seeing an escort — there is a good chance that he has a history of unfaithfulness to one degree or another. As an example, before man would visit a local Westhoughton escort, it is likely that he has a history, generally a long history, with pornography in general. In addition to viewing pornography, there is also the chance that these men have used various websites, such as married but looking websites, adult chat rooms, escort websites, and so forth, before they have actually met up with an escort agency in Westhoughton .

However, because men who visit Westhoughton escort agencies oftentimes have a long history of deviance from their marital vows, online infidelity investigation services can help to uncover both the types of websites that your husband has visited as well as potentially catching them trying to solicit an escort.

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If you've decided to start hosting adult parties, you're probably wondering just what you need to do in order to get your home ready for the occasion. Although an adult toy party doesn't need to be an elaborate affair, it's still nice to set things up properly to enhance everyone's experience. You can learn more about getting your home ready for an adult toy party by reading on below.

Setting Up the Room

Logistically, it makes sense to set aside a single room in which the majority of the event will take place. Depending on what sorts of party ideas for adults you've devised, you may need to clear away a decent amount of room. At any rate, it's always smart to clear away as much clutter and riffraff as possible. Designate a table or counter for product demonstrations, and make sure that it is cleared away to make doing this much easier.

Decorating the Room

Elaborate decorations really aren't necessary for an adult toy party. After all, only adults will be attending and none of them will be expecting streamers, balloons or other things. Still, it's nice to spruce the place up a bit to give it a more appealing feel. Candles are one great way to do so; light a couple and place them strategically so that they enhance the ambiance of the room. Aromatherapy is another good choice; invest in a few key items to help make your home as pleasant to be in as possible.

Drinks to Serve

No adult toy party is complete without a decent array of beverages. Head over to the bottle shop and stock up on the ingredients for some of the more popular ladies' drinks. If possible, ask the invitees what their cocktails of choice are, and make sure to have all of the necessary fixings. Champagne is always a good fall back, so pick up a few inexpensive bottles to pass around. Remember that some women may prefer non-alcoholic drinks; think about preparing some smoothies or other fruity drinks for them. Finally, make sure you have plenty of ice on hand!

Food to Prepare

Food is another very important part of any successful adult party. At the same time, the event isn't supposed to revolve around food, so you aren't going to want to prepare large meals. Things like oysters and chocolate fondue are always hits, as are vegetable trays and fruit salads. Tortilla chips and salsa are usually good options, too; basically, finger foods are the way to go. Pick up an assortment of them and have them all ready on a table for your guests to enjoy. Without a doubt, it will be a party to remember!

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With all the preparations and excitement of hosting your own swinger party, it can be easy to forget about the simple things you can to do to really set your private house party apart from an average get together. Here are some tips to help make your swinging party a successful one:

  • Be Prepared: Be fully prepared to welcome your guests when they arrive, and make them feel like the party started when they stepped through the door. Do not add to their nervousness by leaving them to finish your preparations, especially if this is their first time coming to your home.
  • Be Clear: If someone uninvited or unfamiliar to you comes to the party, let them know that sexual activities are likely to occur. That way you can avoid any unpleasant misunderstandings later on just in case they are the date of a forgetful guest.
  • Be Courteous: Give a personally guided tour to every guest that is unfamiliar with your home. Show them where the bathrooms, bedrooms, bar and exits are. Tell them everything you would appreciate knowing if you were a guest instead of the host.
  • Be Considerate: Even if your guests only accept ice water, offer them a drink as soon as they arrive. It's usually easier for people to get into the party mood if they're holding a glass in their hand.
  • Be Accommodating: Make introductions on a one-to-one basis, with a comment to help start the conversation. Introducing new guests to a group of people at the same time or making multiple introductions at once can be confusing and intimidating.
  • Be A Leader: It is often expected for the host to make the first move. If the party is not progressing past cocktails and conversations, your guests won't be pointing their fingers at each other. They will be pointing them at you.
  • Be A Recruiter: With lots of people coming through the door at once, it makes it difficult for you to manage the party. Ask close friends to help you tend the bar and take guests on tours.
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Ever wondered what wife swapping, swinger's clubs and swingers lifestyle really mean? In a committed partnership but looking for some extra sexual excitement together?

Swinging has become increasingly popular across middle aged mainstream married, or committed, couples. Over 4 million people world wide are swingers, with over 3000 swingers clubs around the globe to join. Swingers can also meet through online swinger's sites, swinger's personal ads, house parties and swinger's lifestyle magazines.

"Swinging" is considered to mean a married or committed couple engaging in sexual activities with either another couple, multiple couples or with a single person. These events can occur at swingers clubs, private parties, private homes, hotels, and even at specific holiday resorts.

Traditionally, the average age of swingers is the mid 40's, and all ages and body types are considered acceptable.

"The Lifestyle", or the swinger's lifestyle, was created in the late 1990's in London for the well heeled under 40's. Forget the jatz and crackers. Trendy, up market venues were selected, smart evening wear was the attire and photos were needed to prove physical attractiveness. This idea took off quickly and is now popular in all parts of the world. Selective swinging refers to usually childless unmarried young graduates with average ages of late 20's. Lifestyle swinging and selective swinging both encompass all swinging activities. These terms came into use mainly because younger couples didn't care for the term swingers with its traditional connotations.

It is thought that swinging started in the 1950's in US military bases in California. The husbands all threw their car keys in a bowl and whoever belonged to the keys that the wife pulled out had her as their sexual partner for the night. Originally, these little get togethers were called key clubs. In the late 1950's the media redubbed them wife swapping parties. Wife swapping is now considered to be an archaic term and is not entirely accurate in covering all the sexual options of swinging couples.

For those of you who are a little shy or new to the game, there are many swingers' sites available for you to check out. Most of them cater to those looking to heat up their relationship, as well as those singles who want to mingle with like minded individuals. Some of these sites offer adult personal ads, which can include video voice and pictures. They also offer video chat rooms, speed dating, swinger club location listings, video messenger, and hot games. Some sites also offer offline swinger parties where you can take it at your own comfort level and speed.

Swinging sexual activities include: exhibitionism, having sex with your partner while being watched, voyeurism, and watching others having sex. Soft swinging, or soft swap, is kissing, stroking or oral sex with a 3rd or 4th person. This can also include threesomes or group sex but usually partners are not swapped. A full swap means having penetrative sexual intercourse with someone other than your committed partner. The original wife swap. A full swap can also mean a committed couple having sex with a bisexual female for a saucy threesome. Group sex is an all inclusive term for multiple partners having sexual intercourse in the same room or an orgy. While the sexual activities are happening in the same room this is referred to as same room swapping. When there are separate rooms involved it is then called play.

Planning a raunchy vacation with your partner? There are now online swinger sites catering for the couple who are into swinging holidays or nude vacations. Swingers' resorts can be found in the Caribbean, Cancun, Mexico and various parts of Europe. These resorts are designed for couples only, who enjoy erotic exciting lifestyles, and all seem to involve destinations with beautiful white sandy beaches and featuring large exotic looking swimming pools. Many of these swingers' resorts have a variety of saucy theme nights. Some of the resorts promise "non stop flat out parties" for the more active bodied person.

Providing that the emotional bonds between the committed couple are whole, many swingers feel that their chosen lifestyle increases the strength of their partnership. In one survey, while only 6% confessed to having a problem with the green eyed monster, up to 70% of swingers claimed they had no problems with jealousy at all.

Seeking to spice up your sex life with your significant other? This could be it! Swingers clubs, swinger sites, swinger sex, swinger's lifestyle, and swingers resort. Pack up your condoms and raunch up your relationship now!

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Steve is a professional musician. A man in his 50's, virile yet sensitive, he is sexually compulsive around fetishistic sex. Since his early teens, Steve had masturbated nearly every night before going to sleep. As he matured, his need for masturbation increased until he was masturbated five or six times a day. He found that if he did not act on these urges, he would remain "horny" all day, which would make him restless, distracted, and irritable. When asked about his masturbatory fantasies, he related that they centered on feet, stockings, worshiping at the feet of a dominant woman to whom he would avow love, and visiting professional sex workers to whom he would also confess love.

By his mid-twenties, he was routinely acting out on these fantasies. Again, if he did not act out his sexual fantasies, he would become very uncomfortable and would be unable to focus on anything except playing music during the day. When the Internet became available, he started spending multiple hours each day surfing the net, looking for fetishistic images to which he would masturbate. Stating that he was never interested in "fucking real women", he was eager to view websites that featured feet, legs, stockings, heels and dominatrixes.

When he would begin a romantic/sexual relationship with a woman, he would vow to stop acting out with aberrant sex to devote his attention to the girlfriend. He could, however, never bring himself to tell the "real girlfriend" he loved her. Within a few months after he began a relationship, he would lose sexual interest in his partner and the relationship would fall apart.

At some point, he started using telephone sex services. He would enjoy having elaborate fantasy relationships with the workers and would often "fall in love" with one of them. When he had "maxed out" his credit cards, he applied for new ones and then ran them up their limits. He got behind in the rent, and the power company threatened to cut him off unless he paid his bill. Socially isolated, deeply in debt, and about to lose his job, Steve realized his preoccupation with sex was ruining his life, but he felt powerless to change his behavior. Moreover, he was fighting the urge to visit a dominatrix/transvestite which he felt was a significant increase in the level of deviance he required to achieve sexual satisfaction.

He also was beginning to sense that pornography and phone sex no longer excited him as much as they used to. Increased levels of novelty, excitement and risk were required to achieve orgasm. At the same time he had met a woman whom he greatly admired, but for whom he had no sexual feelings despite her very real physical attractiveness. When he lost interest in her sexually and episodes of emotional intimacy would provoke anxiety, he began to examine his relationship patterns. Fearful that he was perpetuating his life-long pattern of not being able to be sexual or to have loving feelings for a real woman, he was concerned that yet another relationship would painfully fall apart. This, combined with persistent job jeopardy and chronic debt, propelled him into treatment.

Personal History

Steve was the youngest child in the family, with a sister who was five years his senior.

His sister was a bit sadistic, tormenting him with teasing when he began to develop sexually. He relayed an incident wherein he had given an ID bracelet to a girlfriend and his sister confronted him about the missing bracelet at the dinner table which incited fear in him about his projection of his mother's enmeshed and hysterical reaction.

His mother, it seemed, was the stereotypical "Jewish mother." She was adamant that he not see girls who were not Jewish (and most of his girlfriends were not). When starting treatment, Steve relayed that he had a very "loving" relationship with his mother. She would tell him that she loved him "every 10 seconds" and would incur his guilt about abandoning her whenever he made an effort to explore his interest in girls. As treatment proceeded, he began to realize that a fear of engulfment was an underlying factor about his anxiety about true intimacy and was able to connect this to his relationship to a mother who was too insecure to allow him to become his own person. He spent his childhood feeling that he could not retain a sense of himself and still maintain his relationship to mother, whom he put on a pedestal. Unable to risk his mother's emotionally abandoning him, he clocked himself in an armor of a "false self", which was a people-pleasing self. Constantly seeking validation from the outside, sexual approvable and acceptance from sex workers made him feel real, vital and alive. It defined his identity.

His love and need for mother represented a conflict for him. At some point, he began to realize how emotionally arbitrary his mother was. He could never trust her telling him that she loved him "every 10 seconds" because she would act differently from one moment to the next, giving Steve mixed messages. What disturbed him most as a child were his mother's rage attacks, which were unpredictable and could be triggered by almost anything. Inevitably, whenever Steve would make an attempt to appropriately separate from family, his mother would rage about an unrelated event. He sometimes would feel "crazy" by his mother's enmeshment and abandonment patterns.

Steve's father worked in the hardware store that his father (Steve's grandfather) had started and had successfully run until he sold it to cover his gambling debts. Steve's father had intended to save his money and eventually either to buy out the hardware store's current owner or else to open his own store. After many years, however, he was still working for little more than minimum wage, while the store's owner would regularly rebuke him for not having his father's knack for hardware. Steve's father was not ready to be a father when Steve was born. Steve understood that his father was planning on leaving his mother but could not bring himself to leave her with two small children. Steve came to blame himself for being responsible for holding his father in a marriage he did not want to be in. Later he realized that his father would not have had the guts to leave. Steve noted that his father never stood up for himself or for his family, and that he never stood up to Steve's mother. While his mother held Steve up on a pedestal, she, at the same time, demoralized his father with her constant belittling about his failure as a man.

Steve's father died from a heart attack when he was 13. Steve felt nothing about the loss and when he went back to school he never told anyone about it.. About a year later, his mother was hit and killed by a bus after Steve asked her if she could walk the dog as a favor to him. He had wanted to stay home to look at internet porn and masturbate.

Extremes of parental depravation or indulgence have devastating effects on a child, and it is not surprising to find this dynamic in the backgrounds of many sexual compulsives.

In addition, he had a weak connection to a vulnerable father to whom he felt a guilt-inducing tie for "holding" him to a torturous marriage to a woman who loathed and belittled his manhood. There was no port in the storm for Steve; no sustaining environment where Steve could develop an arsenal of task -orienting coping strategies. Nor did he have any social connections that could have compensated for the lack of balance and consistency required for the development of a solid, adequate sense of self. Like many sexual compulsives, he sexualized his family-of-origin conflicts and developed an internal "split" to abide an unbearable childhood psychic reality.

As an adult, he felt he lived in two worlds - not unlike a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde syndrome. There was a vacillating connection between fetishistic love objects in his fantasy world where he could express none- threatening love feelings and "real" women who were his companions and intellectual equals, although he held no erotic feelings for them. He could remain alive and vital enough to succeed at a competitive career in the music industry by remaining in a dissociated "erotic haze" which served to regulate the amount of intimacy he could tolerate. The sexually compulsive person therefore frequently alternates between the isolated and anxious clinging to both the "fantasy" love object with whom he feels safe but dehumanized, demoralized and fraudulent, and the "real" woman with whom he feels emotionally vulnerable, terrified of engulfment and de-erotized.

In addition to a lack of self care and the repetitive, impulsive choices that result in damaging consequences to the self, the person enslaved by compulsive sexuality is ill- equipped to value, comfort, soothe, and care for his authentic self. Indeed, he has no authentic self because he has never separated from his family-of-origin. The lack of care and nurturing from a mother who only saw him as a "need-supplying object" for herself is his basic trauma and is acted out sexually as an adult.

With this case in mind, let us pick out specifically what makes for a description of a sexually compulsive person.

Compulsive Sexuality
Solidifies his identity
Feels shameful
Is illicit, stolen, or exploitive
Compromises values
Draws on fear for excitement
Reenacts childhood traumas
Disconnects one from oneself
Creates a world of unreality and fantasy
Is self-destructive and dangerous
Uses conquest or power
Serves to medicate and kill pain
Is dishonest
Requires a double life
Is grim and joyless
Demands perfection
Mistakes intensity for intimacy
Requires novelty - intensity always has to be more than the last "hit"
Gives way to self-hatred, loneliness and despair.
Has no sexual "boundaries"
Uses false intimacy as a way to avoid relational pain
Preoccupation and ritualizations
Is "doing to" someone
Is devoid of communication
Has no limits
Benefits one person
Is an uncontrollable energy
Is emotionally distant
Other considerations

-Behavior leads to increasingly negative consequences but addict unable to control acting out
-Denial of the behavior's seriousness.
-Is the product of intense, unmet needs, coupled with the demand for perfect fulfillment and control of relational pain.
-Demands that life provides an illusion of reassurance and predictability by getting self-centered physiological relief.
-Is always a narcissistic endeavor - people are seen as "need-supplying objects", not as real human beings; more interested in getting than giving.
-Is ephemeral - physical orgasm provides a welcome rush of adrenaline, but by itself can only offer the brief illusion of intimacy and belonging.
-Sex is a conquest and abates the terrifying sense of not belonging.
-Sexual fantasy conjures up a perfect world of nourishment, love, generosity and tenderness.
-Are trapped in the paradox of being terrified of loneliness even as they act in ways that create further loneliness.
-In fantasy sex, have the freedom to be vulnerable and nurtured without fear. At it's core, sexual fantasy is a worship of self.
-Carry a sense of parental betrayal; parents unable to provide a positive role model of healthy intimacy.
-Have no ability to regulate their emotions from within.
-Risk relationships, financial loss, job jeopardy and physical safety.
-Possesses a set of irrational cognitive distortions, including "Sex is my most important need"; "I am basically a bad, worthless person; no one could love me as I am;" "My needs are never going to be met if I depend on others;" "I am valuable only if I am sexualized; being sexually desired makes me feel alive;" (Patrick Carnes, Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction)
-Have deficits in the areas of social skills, interpersonal communication, stress control, anger management and empathy for others.
-Learned in childhood that feelings are dangerous, so learned how to mask their feelings, even from themselves.
-Sexual addiction is not a moral issue; it is a coping mechanism born from childhood wounding.


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